Many relationships have broken due to the wrong choice of words during conversations or disagreements. It is very important that partners pay attention to their choice of words, and how they speak them during conversations.
Disagreements in relationships are inevitable since people are unique in their own ways, but knowing what not to say so as not to hurt your partner is one thing to know. In order to make your relationship work, there are harmful statements that should never be uttered. Fights will end, disagreements will finish but words may never be forgotten.
Here are 5 things to never say to your partner if you want a healthy and strong relationship:
1 You act just like your… (mother, father, brother)
Whoever it is that your partner acts like, it is reasonable to never utter this statement during disagreements. Since you know your partner so well, it might be easy for you to be able to trace some of their traits to their loved ones. Saying this to them during a disagreement obviously means it’s not a good trait and this can fuel your partner’s anger.
People hate to be compared and it can cause pain to your partner.
2 I should never have said yes to you
This statement is like telling your partner that you regret your decision to be with them and this can crash a relationship, no matter how strong It is. Nobody wants to feel like a mistake or an option and saying this to your partner would not only hurt them, it can crush their ego and self-esteem.
Never make your partner feel that the whole relationship is a mistake, they would definitely walk away.
3 My ex did it like this
If your ex did it better than your current partner, how then is it that you are no longer together. Nobody wants to be told that he/she is not as capable as the ex. Never compare your partner with your past no matter how angry you might get because it might just be the end of your relationship.
Before you say it, think of how you would feel if the case was reversed and it is you being compared to an ex. Let the past stay in the past.
4 If you loved me, you would…
This statement is nothing but a blackmail and it can make your partner lose interest. It sends a message of manipulation to your partner if you utter words like this during disagreements. Saying this could also mean that you are selfish and you care less about their feelings. As long as you are satisfied, you do not care what they feel.
This will only result in frustration and resentment, soon the relationship will come crashing down.
5 Man up (or be a woman)
It is never right to question your partner’s capability during disagreements. Uttering a statement like this means that your partner is not meeting your gender expectations of them. They might begin to feel not enough or less of themselves and this is toxic to your relationship.
Explain in clear terms what your expectation of them is, never tell your partner to man up or be a woman.
Hurtful words are not easy to forget, the memories stick with people for a long time. They are like eggs, once broken, it can never be mended. It is therefore important that you are mindful of the words that you say to your partner. Pause, take a deep breath and think about how your words will make your partner feel before you utter them. If you think it will hurt them, then don’t say it.