It’s no more news that to spice up your relationship, you need intentionality. Relationships have become
boring because partners have neglected the things they ought to do. Connections have been lost
because people are too busy chasing the bags that they forget to keep things exciting in their
Not all relationships need a counselor to help get things back on track. Often times, partners just need
to try new things to keep their relationship exciting. Truth is, what you do not water will wither and that
relationship won’t be great if you don’t put in the work.
Are you at that point where your relationship needs some saving grace? Or are you beginning to lose
connection with your partner? Here are 4 ways to spice up your relationship:
1 Communicate your needs
It is easy to get engrossed with life that we forget that our partner has needs. It is therefore important
that you speak up at the point where you feel your partner is drifting away. Point it out that your
connection is dwindling and there is need to intentionally spice things up. Having your partner on the
same page with you would make it easier for both of you to work things out together.
Don’t assume they know because often times, they don’t know. Be honest about things you want you
and your partner to do together. Getting the spice back just got easier the moment you communicate
with your partner.
2 Be willing to try new things
Routines have made relationships lose the spark. Partners are used to doing the same set of things over
and over again that it has become just a routine, the fun is no longer there. Once in a while, if you would
often drive around with your partner, why not hop on a bike together and let the breeze blow away
Step out of your comfort zone and do the not so usual things. Trying new things create new memories
and makes your relationship bond stronger. Some adventures here and there would not hurt.
3 Speak your partner’s love language
It is sad to know that you would buy your partner a very expensive gift when all they need is quality
time. It is important that you are aware of your partner’s love language and you constantly speak it. Be
sure that you are not projecting your own love language on them, simply asking would do the trick.
Does your partner love gift, words of affirmation, quality time or physical touch? It’s not impossible that
their love language could be all of the above but one has to be of top priority.
4 Celebrate the little things and your wins together
Most people get so used to their partner that they begin to get complacent. At random times, celebrate
having your partner because it’s a win whether you admit or not. While looking forward to the
milestones both individually and as a couple, celebrate the seemingly little things like birthdays,
anniversaries, winning a pitch at the office, meeting a target and lots more.
While there are a lot of things that you can do to spice up your relationship, you can start with the
above tips. Do not forget, proper communication of your needs and the needs of your relationship is
important. Be willing to try new things depending on what your relationship needs per time. Make sure
that you intentionally work towards keeping the spark and excitement in your relationship so as not to lose the connection.
Doing these things for the ones you love is worth it and will save your relationship in theogn run .