Relationships pass through different phases. There are times when all is good and rosy and there are other times filled with challenges. The seemingly perfect relationships that you call goals have at one time or the other had their fair share of challenges. One thing they did not do is give up on their relationship and that’s why you can covet it.
Rather than give up on your relationship when challenges arise, there are several ways to strengthen it. It might seem easy to want to dump your partner because you feel you’ll find someone else but what happens when you and the someone else hit rock bottom too? A strong relationship will test your capacity for sacrifice, compromise, patience and tolerance. The question is, are you willing to put in the effort?
Are you currently struggling in your relationship? Is your relationship at the verge of breaking but you don’t want to give up yet? If you are willing to put in the effort, here are 4 ways to save a struggling relationship:
1 Remind yourselves of why you are together
Go down the memory lane and remind yourselves of how it all started. Ask yourself, what attracted me to this person? What attributes did this person possess that drew me in? What do I love so much about this person that made me say yes to their proposal? Answer these questions honestly because it will remind you of the reasons why you both decided to be together.
Does your partner still possess these qualities? Dwell on how they made you feel at the beginning, this will strengthen your bond and rekindle the love and passion.
The moment there is gap in communication, problems begin to arise in relationships. The importance of talking and listening to your partner cannot be over emphasized. Instead of getting defensive and shutting your partner out whenever they try to talk to you, listen to them. Show that you care about their feelings and that you are interested in the things they have to say.
Practice effective communication by engaging your partner in conversations that will interest them. Doing this will make your partner open up to you and this will bring you closer.
3 Forgive each other
For a strong and healthy relationship, it is advisable to hold your partner closer to your heart than you hold your ego. Mistakes are bound to happen; your partner will wrong you but choose to forgive them. Let go of the anger, grudge, and bitterness that’s holding you back from progressing with your partner.
Let your partner know they have wronged you and share how that made you feel. This will restore peace and keep your relationship bond stronger. Choosing to forgive and let go could be difficult especially when your partner hurt you, but start small, soon it’ll become easy.
4 Set boundaries
Do not play the ‘I’ll do me while you do you’ card in your relationship. A relationship involves two people hence, there has to be boundaries and principles that guide the actions of both parties. Share your expectations with your partner, let them know what you would love them to do or not do for you. Also be prepared to act right according to the boundaries that you set.
Setting boundaries will aid mutual growth, promote sense of security and trust.
Note that not all relationships are worth saving especially if it involves a case of abuse and violence. Do not stay in a relationship that jeopardizes your mental and physical well-being. Other than this, giving up and walking away should not always be the first option. Use the above tips to save your struggling relationship and get your partner back.