Does your relationship seem far away from what you had imagined it would be? Have you constantly had to question your decision to be in your current relationship? Have you cried more or maybe you have wanted to walk away countless times? Then maybe you are in a toxic relationship.
Relationships are meant to be loving, and safe but the moment it starts to become unloving and unsafe, it needs to be fixed. While it is okay to want to be in a relationship, it is never okey to want to be in a toxic one. Toxic relationships can be very harmful to one’s mental and physical health. Hence, choosing to stay in a toxic relationship has no benefits but a lot of loss.
There is a thin line between the usual conflicts that happen in relationships and toxicity. How then do you tell the difference between a normal relationship’s ups and downs and toxicity? Here are 4 signs that you are in a toxic relationship:
1 Emotional abuse
It’s not only when you are hit physically in your relationship that you’ve been abused. Does your partner constantly say hurtful things to you? Or maybe your partner ridicules or belittle in private and in public? If your partner constantly criticizes you and makes you feel like you are not enough or doing enough, you are being abused emotionally.
It gets worse over time since you’ll be made to believe that you are the problem and that everything is wrong with you. You begin to blame yourself for every mishap believing that you deserve all the emotional abuse.
No, you don’t deserve the abuse, it’s your partner who is toxic. Get your sense of worth back.
2 You stop being yourself
Putting yourself away in a bid to please your partner is a sign that you are in a toxic relationship. While it is okay to want to make your partner happy by making some compromises, you should never lose yourself. If you spend most of your time trying to please your partner by being what you are not, by trying to be all perfect, then you are not in a healthy relationship.
Your partner should love you for who you are and patiently help you to become the better person your relationship needs you to be. Not what he feels you be.
3 You only make the compromises
If you constantly have to give more than your partner is willing to or would give in your relationship, it’s a sign that your relationship is toxic. In a healthy relationship, both partners strive to give as much as the other person, not just take and take.
One partner should not have to make the compromise every time under the guise of ‘let peace reign.’ In doing these, people tend to lose themselves in relationships and end up getting frustrated and broken.
4 You don’t feel comfortable expressing yourself
Do you feel intimidated? I mean, you have words to say to your partner but you are never comfortable enough to express yourself. You know that there are some conversations that needs to be had but you don’t feel free to speak your mind? It’s a sign that you are in a toxic relationship.
Your partner should be the easiest person to communicate with, without having to try to sound perfect. You should feel comfortable to discuss your troubles, your needs, your aspirations, your emotions and so much more.
In conclusion, did this post resonate with you? Does any of the signs point to your relationship? It might be time for you to end any toxic relationship that you are in, that is after trying to fix things though. Toxic relationships are difficult to be in so count it all joy if you are able to break free. It might be difficult but it’s total worth it.