There are many wrong ideas about relationships that have been passed down to us which we have also failed to question. The society we live in, in a bid to protect us has made us believe in fairytales and this has broken a lot of relationships and shattered hopes.
The movies we watch do not help also. A perfect relationship is modeled in a type of way and we also go out looking for the exact same thing. We are heartbroken because we are not able to find the so-called perfect relationship by following their template.
While it is okay to want a happy relationship, many of the reasons we want this is based on myths and not what relationships actually are. Here are 4 relationship myths to stop believing:
1. Happy couples don’t fight
One relationship myth that has been passed down successfully is that happy couples never fight with each other. We also go about our relationships trying not to get angry or fight our partner which leads to holding grudges and resentment.
It is absolutely normal that you and your partner don’t agree on everything since you both are independent individuals with unique personalities. Arguments will happen, disagreement will happen and these are natural and okay.
It helps to widen your perspective and learn more about your partner. As long as you always find ways to resolve your differences, your relationship is on its way to getting stronger.
2. A perfect relationship is easy
We have been told in movies that we can have a perfect relationship and that having it is easy. That’s a relationship myth. We are of the opinion that being with someone we love should be effortless just because we love them but that’s not true.
Reality check, the seemingly perfect relationship requires a lot of work and intentionality. Both partners need to consciously work things out, starting from their differences to their mutual expectations. A healthy relationship does not come easy but trust me, the work is worth it.
3. There are no secrets in relationships
While there should not be lies and deceit in your relationship, believing that there are no secrets in relationships is a myth. The truth is that your partner might not be able to handle every single detail you are willing to give.
Rather than make your partners feel insecure because of a piece of information, it is safe to hold back from spilling sometimes. An example is airing your thought on an outfit that she thinks is great but you think otherwise.
4 Never go to bed angry
This relationship myth is one that has put a lot of pressure on people. We have been told to always settle fights before we sleep but that does not work for most people. Sometimes, it is best to retreat, rest, and then wake up to settle disagreements in a calm and amicable way.
The pressure of wanting to settle a disagreement before going to bed might cloud your judgment and important things are brushed aside just because what you think matters is that settle before going to bed. Just maybe, going to bed angry might be the way out sometimes.
In more ways than we know, myths that we have believed have been controlling our relationships.
We have given them so much hold on our lives and we keep getting frustrated out of relationships. Instead of taking in every information that is available both in movies and online, why not take a moment to find out what works for your own relationship.
This would help you build a healthy and happy relationship devoid of the fairytales we have been made to believe